There are three possible ways of looking at love marriage. From one perspective, it can be seen as an unhealthy and sinful act that is tolerated in marriage only because it is physically unavoidable.
On the other hand, it can also be seen as a natural and normal desire, just like eating, sleeping, and breathing. The third perspective is that love marriage is an extremely enjoyable act; a deep joy that can be had when you find the right partner. Sex has always been and will always be a necessary part of any relationship, but its place and quality are determined by the people who practice it, not by the boundaries of that relationship.
The reasons why a love marriage should be good and fulfilling are well known. Love marriages provide insightful information about ourselves, help us develop techniques, and keep a more open mind.
The thing is, since love marriages come with a bond of freedom, everyone is happy to accept a love marriage night from time to time. Love marriages, a wonderful intimate night with a stranger, are a fantasy that everyone has desired at one time or another. Some of us have a stronger, more general need for sexual novelty. And it’s much more fun to have sex with someone you don’t know very well.
If you’re that type of person, go ahead! But spending a love match night with a stranger without knowing what you want and how much you want to give and convey to that person can lead to an unhappy experience.
You both want this experience to be as satisfying as possible, so you need to set boundaries, rules, or precautions so that you’re on the same wavelength or the same rhythm of the night.
Act with Care
Everything related to a love marriage between a man and a woman must be done with care. Restraint not only determines the atmosphere of the night but also the compatibility of the love. In other words, whatever they do that night will be covered and protected by desire and lust.
They are both the stars of the night’s show. Secret lovers. No one knows that you were together and what you did that night. They are discreet. And it goes on like that all night.
This is an example of why discreet love marriages work
Imagine this. Not particularly good-looking, not particularly bad-looking, just an average guy. He has normal social skills, loves marriage, just an average guy. Now imagine putting this average guy in a closed room with the little match girl in love. They both know that they are isolated from the outside world and that only they will know what happened in that particular room. They start talking and flirting, he starts touching her, and she gets very excited, probably going to have (discreet) sex and have a great night together. Why? Because their “lips of the night” are sealed, she is free to move forward. She feels comfortable, she doesn’t feel pressured to conform to societal norms, and she isn’t worried about the consequences. Now that she has less reason to control or hold herself back, she feels allowed to have a great night.
But putting these two characters in a public place where their friends might be present, where they will face social consequences for their actions, takes the story in a completely different direction.
Now her self-control is gone and she wants to have a sexual relationship with this man, but now she is defensive and feels like she is not allowed to.
